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Self-Bossing is the New Black!

Updated: Aug 21, 2018

Six Steps to Empower your Inner Boss...

It has become apparent to me that we are all guilty in some capacity of trusting others to make our decisions for us. Whether those decisions are about childbirth and prenatal care, nutritional choices, or even when choosing a mortgage lender, we tend not to think for ourselves in many cases. We’re all guilty of it because it’s easy to go to someone who has been through it before.

So why do we surrender the ability to self-boss?

So what does self-boss even mean? In my opinion, it’s all about doing your own research, listening to whatever opinions you wish, but in the end making your OWN decisions. As a society we need to take back our ability to boss ourselves and run our own show in the important aspects of our lives. The most important aspect, and the one in which I can logically speak of, is healthcare

When you walk into your chiropractor’s office, I so very hope that you feel empowered to take possession of your healthcare. You are the boss. Ina May Gaskin has a quote that drives my point home, “Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: Your body is not a lemon. You are not a machine. The creator is not a careless mechanic. Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose, and water buffalo. Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body.” I think she means that we are so perfectly designed to be self-healing organisms, and that we are capable of so much. This specific statement is meant to be the empowerment every expectant mother needs to dig deep within in order to see that she holds the power to have her child without the need for all of the medical interventions. It is a natural born ability to birth a child, so why do we as a society question it?

Because we have fired our inner self-boss.

We have gotten so far off the beaten path that our ancestors originally created for us. They believed in the power of trusting our bodies - that we have what it takes, our bodies won’t fail us if we treat them with respect and love, and nurture them as the life-giving system they are.

When we have sick fish, do we take them out of the water, medicate them and hook them up to IV?

No, we work to balance their environment in order to allow for proper healing. Our society is at the point that we actually doubt a woman’s ability to birth her own child - that she instantly requires a medical provider and interventions, regardless of her and baby’s health. In fact, we go as far as to decide when the baby should be born and if that baby doesn’t come on that estimated due date, there must be something wrong with mom’s body. Further, modern medicine dictates that we better inject and expect. Why? Since when have we as a human race changed so much that we require all of these injectables in order to GET HEALTHY?

My goal in writing this post  is to offer empowerment to the people of our community to self-boss when it comes to healthcare decisions for them personally and for their families. You are born as pure as you could ever be. Why would you ever want to cause immediate imbalance to you or your child’s body without a real and eminent threat? As society we have started our own downward spiral of health from the get-go, even inutero. Stand tall, take it back, educate yourself. Read articles, reference resources, look at research and journals.

1. Believe in your abilities

Understanding that you don’t hold the same educational level as many or possibly of any of your providers; you can learn about your body and its ability. Understand your body’s immune system, understand how the birth process works, understand what a fever is and what it is for. What is your body able to do? Once you have the facts, the next step is believing that your body can actually self-heal. Also, understanding when it won’t self-heal and when a medical intervention is necessary.

2. Don’t Dr. Google

Everyone runs to the internet with symptoms to diagnose. Have you done it? You know you have! Don’t. Research, get educated, but stick with the facts. Know how to triage a situati